Today we’d like to introduce you to Veronica Nabizadeh.
Veronica, we appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us today. Where does your story begin?
I didn’t set out to become a marriage and relationship expert—I became one the day my four-year-old daughter looked up at me with tear-filled eyes and said, “Mommy, please make the arguing stop.” In that moment, my life split open. I realized I wasn’t just fighting with my husband—I was handing my child the very pain I swore I’d never pass down. That was the day everything changed.
Before that moment, my whole life had been guided by a desire to help people find peace—in their hearts, their homes, and their relationships. I studied human resource management at St. Mary’s University in San Antonio because I was fascinated by human behavior and the invisible emotional contracts we carry into every interaction. Law school at Florida Coastal School of Law only magnified that. You don’t need a legal degree to see how the adversarial system fails families—but working inside that system made it impossible to ignore.
So, I shifted my path. I became a Supreme Court Certified Florida Family Mediator specifically to help couples separate with respect, consciousness, and grace. But even that work couldn’t shield me from my own truth: I was struggling at home.
When Kara spoke those words, something in me broke open—and something wiser stepped forward. Out of that wakeup call came the Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby!® Technique the most powerful technique to diffuse tension and de-escalate conflict between spouses. First, I used it on myself. I learned how to stop the escalation, drop my neediness and defensiveness, and roll into wholeness and emotional regulation. It wasn’t clean or quick—old patterns die hard—but the healing was real. My marriage softened. My heart opened. The fighting stopped.
That transformation became my calling. I trained in Relational Life Therapy and became a certified RLT coach and bootcamp facilitator so I could serve other battle-weary couples in the trenches of conflict. My marriage of 25+ years deepened, and so did my purpose.
Today, I’m the founder of Marriage Relationship Restart, author of Don’t Throw in the Towel Yet!: If It’s Worth Fighting About, It’s Worth Fixing, and host of the Truth Bombs and Tantrums podcast. I teach women through my Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! Turnaround workshops and lead Relational Life Institute bootcamps for couples who are ready to stop surviving their marriage and start transforming it.
At home in Florida, I live what I teach with my husband, Shahriar, our wise old-soul daughter Kara, and our two dignified pups, William and Mary.
Alright, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
Smooth? Not even close. And honestly, I wouldn’t trade a single bump. The struggle is what shaped me. For the last twenty-five years, I’ve been knee-deep in personal development—unlearning old patterns as fast as I learned new ones. Stepping out as a female entrepreneur in my fifties further intensified my development. I had to confront limiting beliefs I’d carried for decades: Am I worthy? Who am I to take up space? Will anyone care what I have to say?
Building a business at the same time as writing a book, creating programs, and supporting clients—while still being fully present for my family (my top priority)—stretched me in ways I never anticipated. There were late nights, tech meltdowns, imposter moments, and plenty of “Who do you think you are?” thoughts at 2 a.m. But there was also refinement. Strength. Astonishing clarity.
Because the work I do—the Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! Turnarounds, the RLI Bootcamps, the relationship coaching, the deep emotional transformation—isn’t just something I teach. It’s something I live. Watching my clients move from chaos to peace, from fear to clarity, from conflict to connection—that is the fuel that keeps me going.
This journey—standing in radical responsibility and guiding people toward relational empowerment—has been one of the greatest honors of my life. Next to marrying my husband and raising our daughter, it’s the most meaningful act of creation I’ve ever undertaken.
As you know, we’re big fans of you and your work. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about what you do?
I like to joke that I’m a relationship alchemist. But honestly, that’s exactly what I do: I help battle-weary wives and couples turn emotional chaos into clarity, connection, and conscious love.
I’m most known for my Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby! Technique—a method that first saved my own marriage and now helps other couples break the cycle of conflict and reconnect with emotional clarity. The ripple effect still humbles me. An attorney from New York once reached out after hearing about me in a Peloton lawyers’ group. Another day, I was picking up groceries at Publix when a woman stopped me to say she’d heard me speak. Moments like those remind me that this work travels heart-to-heart. It doesn’t stay contained—it spreads, it resonates, it reaches people exactly when they need it.
The project that holds my heart is my upcoming book, <i>Don’t Throw in the Towel Yet!: If It’s Worth Fighting About, It’s Worth Fixing</i> (publishing June 2, 2026, https://marriagerelationshiprestart.com/book). I call it “her grimoire” because it’s more than a book—it’s a sacred companion for the woman standing in the most agonizing crossroads of her life, whispering the question she barely dares to say aloud: Should I stay, or should I go?
Part One is my personal story—raw, unguarded, and deeply personal. The kind of storytelling that makes the reader whisper, “Oh…that’s me.”
Part Two is the inner healing journey—immersive, interactive, reflective. Each chapter includes QR codes that transport the reader directly into deeper conversations, guidance, and heart-to-heart teachings with me, so she never has to walk it alone.
Part Three is the roadmap—clear, grounded, and empowering. It blends emotional insight, legal wisdom, and practical logistics so the reader can make one of the most life-defining decisions of her life: “Should I stay or should I go?” with clarity, confidence, and peace.
My beloved “Battle-Weary Wife” is at the center of everything I create. She knows who she is—tired of carrying the emotional weight, tired of pretending she’s fine, longing for a marriage that doesn’t require abandoning herself. For her, I created The Battle-Weary Wife’s Deck of Strength & Wisdom and The Healing Runes for the Battle-Weary Wife. The runes are tiny power symbols—fierce little truth-tellers that guide her through moments of miscommunication or hurt and help her shift from pain to possibility in the moment.
And because my creativity refuses to nap, I’m launching Truth Bombs & Tantrums: The Podcast for Battle-Weary Wives (and Couples) next year. It’s real talk for people who are done with the polite version of marriage. Think raw, soulful conversations with therapists, coaches, husbands, wives, and experts who speak fluent radical responsibility.
What truly sets me apart is the fusion of my professional training and my lived experience. I’m a non-litigating attorney, a Supreme Court Certified Florida Family Mediator, and a certified Relational Life Therapy coach—but I’m also a woman who spent nearly two decades in a
battle-weary marriage before transforming it into a thriving partnership. My husband, Shahriar, is now my biggest supporter and the greatest validator of my work because he lived the before and after with me.
I’ve walked through the exhaustion and heartbreak I now help others heal.
My work exists to prove this: transformation is within reach, peace is within grasp, and love—real, conscious, grown-up love—is absolutely worth fighting for.
What matters most to you?
What matters most to me is that my daughter gets to grow up in a home filled with peace, emotional safety, and conscious love—a home where her mother chose healing over history and courage over conditioning.
In my book, I talk about “dame-ing up.” (Think Dame Helen Mirren—elegant, powerful, unshakably confident.) To me, “dame-ing up” means embodying strength, wisdom, and grace in equal measure. It’s choosing dignity over reactivity, truth over fear, and self-leadership over
self-abandonment. I dame’d up in my marriage, and now my daughter gets to witness what it looks like when a woman stands tall in love without losing herself—when she leads with compassion, vulnerability, humor, and presence, not perfection or control. That’s the legacy I’m giving her.
And I extend that same legacy to every battle-weary wife I serve. I want her to know that healing isn’t a wish—it’s a willful choice. Marriage can become a spiritual practice, not a battleground. We can end the generational pain instead of handing it forward. We can rewrite the story for ourselves, for our children, and for every generation that follows.
That’s what matters to me.
Pricing:
- Stop, Drop, and Roll, Baby!® Turnaround Workshop – $79
- 8-Week Course – Don’t Throw in the Towel Yet!: A Battle-Weary Wife’s Journey to Clarity and Confidence – $147
- Relationship Bootcamp Individuals: $497 Couples: $797
- 1/2-Day Private Intensive: $597 1-Day Private Intensive: $997
- Private Coaching Sessions: $100 for 90 minutes Ask Veronica: $100
Contact Info:
- Website: https://marriagerelationshiprestart.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagerelationshiprestart
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/veronica.nabizadeh
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/relationshiprestart/
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageRelationshipRestart
